The Bible has much to say about unforgiveness. It makes it clear that we must forgive. This is not subject to debate if one is a Christian. One must forgive.
That said, sometimes it’s difficult to forgive. One may say that, “You don’t know my situation.” You’re right, I don’t, but I do know that one must forgive in order to proceed toward inner healing. In essence, unforgiveness keeps one prisoner while the other goes free.
So how does one forgive when the flesh doesn’t want to let go. First, acknowledge that unforgiveness is a sin. Second, realize that the Bible directs forgiveness. Third, make a decision to forgive regardless how wronged you feel. As a start, release forgiveness through your voice. One might start like this, “Father, in the name of Jesus, I forgive (fill in blank) for doing that to me. By faith, I hold no unforgiveness. I hold no grudges, and forgive (fill in blank).” When thoughts of unforgiveness return, refuse to receive them, but say, “Oh, no, no, I’ve forgiven (fill in blank),” and go your way.
Holding unforgiveness inside can affect health, and ultimately take one to hell if it is not dealt with. Your flesh was hurt, true, and feelings may take years to get over, but one must forgive if one is ever to be set free from its bondage.
Unforgiveness has separated family members, former friends and business associates throughout time. It need not be so. Unforgiveness is a choice, and I urge you to forgive.